They Say Its All About Money I Say Money is Number 3

Introduction :

This is a different view about the most 3 important things in life and shows how
most of the people got it wrong and that money falls in #3 but not the top of the list .
Everybody talks about money and everybody wants money but we all forget that we may have more things that are most important than money and that we could be happy with them instead of focusing on money all the time .

Money plays an important role in our life but definitely it is not on the top of the list and there are more important things by facts and experience
rather than money .

I hope you enjoy this point of view and I would like to receive your feedback and comments .

Thank you

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Hapiness Vs Pleasure :

There is a difference between Happiness and Pleasure Some Psychologist will devise happiness into 2 parts ; the first one which is Extrinsic ( want more and more of materialistic things ) and the intrinsic ( comes from following a passion ,
personal growth , making the world a better place, helping people ) Intrinsic Happiness proved to be a long lasting joy and great feeling that money can not buy in fact the Extrinsic Happiness is equal to Pleasure so it is not the true happiness that we all dream
about And money plays an important role if you want to achieve pleasure in fact there are other 2 factors which are Health Power & Time ; so in order to achieve Pleasure you must have all the 3 of them Money Health Power & Time .

As we get older the possession of these 3 factors will change so for example when we are in our 20’s we may have Health Power and Time but not the money and that why most young people looking for Pleasure may not achieve it and they keep chasing the wrong dream because they think Pleasure is happiness but it is not , many
teenagers in our days have depression or drug addiction simply because they have tried to reach the fake Happiness or the temporary pleasure that only last while doing the thing that cause that feeling but they could not so as a result their lives change to a nightmare full or fears and negativity
The second example when we are in the 40’s we may have the Money which we did not have in the 20’s and the Health power but unfortunately we will not have the time as we will be more busy managing our money and only the money so we are going to be busy with meetings all days and working from home long hours , obviously we are not going to have much time for our selves to complete the 3 charts of Pleasure ( fake
happiness) . The last example when we are in our 60’s if we made it ; we are going to have the time that we did not have in the previous years and the money but unfortunately we are not going to have the health power but no surprise it seems logical
when we age our health start to decrease and we will not be able to do a lot of activities that we could do when we were younger but we did not do them at first because we did not have money and second because we did not have time but now with time &money but no health nothing could be achieved either .

The conclusion:

Living your life looking for ways to reach Pleasure it could be very difficult
and hard for most people ;You are going to chase all the 3 factors all your life
and most people will live the same scenario , at a certain time you are going to have something but not the other.
Happiness is a lot easier to achieve than Pleasure as it comes from the inside and your brain controls it all , so you could be at any stage of these in your life , appreciate what you have , take good care of your health and try to help others or donate if possible ,that will make you feel better about your self and it will impact the way you look at your self ; definitely it is going to boost your confidence and will push you forward
and for more success .
Actually It doesn’t matter what you do in life ! but what matters is are you really loving your job or not ? most of our time is at work so that is extremely important to work in something that we like at least , or something that we love which will be fantastic , it will be less stressful and the time spent at work will be enjoyable which will affect also your work productivity in a positive way

All About Money :

We all know the importance of money in our lives and how most of the people relate Happiness with the amount of money they have , we never see a rich person driving a car or living in a Villa or leaving the luxury life style we directly assume that this person is happy in his/her life without any doubts however this person may be in fact living a terrible life mentally or maybe he/she suffers from a disease.

life is full of examples of rich unhappy people and on the other hand also you can find poor happy people .

To be poor and happy is not magical thing but it starts from bottom of your heart and if you appreciate what God has gave you specially the good health or the lovely family which a lot of others maybe don’t have , if you have kids and you live a miserable life it means that you don’t appreciate God’s Gift to you as there are many people whom want to have kids but they can’t .

Humans in general are used to ignore the things they have and focus on things they don’t have , yes you can do that to improve your living and maybe upgrade your lifestyle but you got to appreciate what you have and be happy where you are , with what you have and try to enjoy it and build on it with a happy mind .

You will deliver for sure because happy chilled mind can think better than an angry sad mind .

You will always find some people below you financially and some better than you , YES be positive all the time and look for new opportunities everyday to step up your life . We all know that the more money you have the less time you have in the perfect profile of a
successful person, You may be rich but do not have time for yourself and your family and what is the point of being successful but not able to take care of your family , why ? because you have a lot projects and you are too busy with your daily schedules and meetings . You can be successful and committed 100 % to your work and how you can increase your wealth this may lead to a better financial status but it does not lead to a happy life and it depends from person to an other , some people will still manage
To split their time equally during the day by working hard and giving time for them selves &families as well .

Your mind does not belong to you when you live and breath money and you will be stuck everyday thinking about it and how you can grow it and your daily schedules are mostly related to money ,so your are losing the most important valuable
thing in our life which is Time !Why Time ? once you dedicate 95% of your time
to work and you are successful financially , your mind tells you that you are doing a good Job but your heart & soul will tell you that they are suffering as they are not getting enough attention.

You must love yourself before loving money and you should invest in yourself before you invest in money , the time spent on projects and businesses could go to you & your family so that you can have a balanced life .

On the other hand the Less money you have the more time you have , so Instead of staying negative all year around being a poor person , try to increase your income by learning new skills and work on improving your overall competences in order for you to get over your bad financial status but you may have the other 2 things on the list which is Health & Piece of mind so you can enjoy your life and accept the current situation because it is a facts however do not sit and sleep work harder everyday to become a better person tomorrow .

The Concept Of Money :

The concept of Money is Happiness has 2 opinions ; some people say that money can not buy Happiness and some say that it can .

You may have the money but still be sad and maybe you live in a Villa but you can not sleep at night , in our days there is so much stress all over us and if we are not mentally strong we will lose the battle against our selves and against
everybody else .

Money can not buy happiness but instead in can buy stuff that could make you happy , we can refer to it as an important factor of happiness but it is not the most important one and money only can not make you happy .
Yes money can have an instant impact on your happiness level for example by increasing your income and improving your overall life style step by step , you will feel happier about every positive move financially but at a certain stage no matter how much money you add to your bank account it will not increase your happiness and the best example is that a good percentage of the yearly suicidal cases worldwide came from rich people
that had everything they wanted they seems to be very successful but in fact their soul is empty and they are far from GOD , mostly none believers ,because if you believe in GOD you will understand that this body & soul does not belong to you but
to the creator .

The people have been focusing on Money all their lives and once they achieve everything they wanted they just quit life .this point called hedonic
adaptation or Hedonic Treadmille.

Does more money equal to more happiness ?

Once basic survival needs are met the money will have less impact your happiness , as if we took someone who makes 2000$ monthly and an other one who makes 10000 $ monthly and the third one makes 1 million$ Monthly . You will find that the second person who is making 10000$ monthly much more happier than the person making 2000$ however the third person who’s making the most money would not be that much happier than the second person .

There are some rules that you should follow in order to achieve happiness and most important is to follow and for what you love , you have choices to make everyday so make sure that those choices are based on what you love the most , not for
nobody else but for yourself .

We need to start evaluating our selves from time to time and make self criticism a habit in order to improve you , once we have problems or issues in our lives we rarely look at our selves as the problem but instead we blame everybody else on our failure , frustration’s and sadness but maybe the problem is us .

We have to be open minded as well and understand when to ask for help , no matter how smart we are , we will not know everything and great things needs teamwork in order to achieve success so please ask for help whenever you feel that you need it and on the other hand we need to be committed to help others whenever we are
capable of that , this is keep you with a long lasting happiness and the person who gives is more happier that the person who receives .

As you get fame as you gain fortune as you gain position and seniority , people will treat you better and better but very important ! you have to understand that people will respect you for your position or title or the money you have but not for yourself , as soon as the title you have is gone or the money you have got vanished you will notice
that the level of people ‘s respect will decrease as well as the attention .

As of most of the things we dream to have like a luxury house or a villa or a sport card , fancy watch etc ; those things that you can not buy today have a huge value now but as soon as your financial status got better and you are able to purchase whatever you want all these things will go down in value simply because you can afford them .
You will be happy about your first car or new house but as soon as you get used to it on daily basis ; you will notice that your happiness will not be affected by these new things around you .

Rich smart people that have reached highest success levels and made billions of dollars during their business career , they figured out a way to increase their happiness levels and keep their life active ; they DONATE to others and help others and this is by far and in My personal opinion the best way to boost your Happiness because when you give money to people in need you get all the credits , first of all from GOD then from the
society.

You will feel that you did something valuable with your money , it could be a donation in a school in Africa or helping someone in medical need or an emergency this moment will stack in your mind for a while and for sure you will keep giving to people to keep enjoying the amazing happiness vibes .
There are so many studies done on groups of people , some of them were given money to spend on them selves and some were given money to spend on other people ; the studies shows that the percentage of happiness is always higher in the people Giving or spending their money on other people specially the ones in need ;Because you can still spend your money on others but there is will a difference on the impact of each
scenario , if you buy a gift for your girls friend it is not the same like helping a homeless person with a place to stay or saving someone from a badly
medical situation .

Money Vs Piece of Mind Vs Health :

Everything is about value so the value for money vs health , normal people will choose health always , with a small example if we offered you 1 million $ and asked you to live with 1 hand or 1 eye or 1 leg for the rest of your life , would you choose the money is this case , I do not think so ,Then it comes something that not many people
talk about Money vs Piece of mind .
Money vs Piece of Mind normal people will choose piece of mind over money with a small example ; if you are at work and your Boss offered you to move to an other department with a salary increase of 500 $ a month but you know that you will work under a rude supervisor who will harass you everyday and you know for sure that you will not be happy working with that guy so obviously you will choose to stay in your current position which you are happy about and you will reject the money .
The last life battle in our examples will be piece of
Mind vs Health and I guess the power of health can beat anything in this world .

Having a busy or angry or sad mind can be less harmful than having a severe accident and disease,so I guess people will choose Health over piece of mind .
I am not trying to tell you that rich people live a bad life but I just wanted to clarify that there are some more important things in order to be happy in life , the person can be happy or sad despite he is rich or not .

We can be whatever and if our mind is strong enough we can beat any circumstances as GOD gave us the human brain which is so powerful and specially in parallel processing and sorting information’s All possibilities can be found as real life examples ,
rich happy person or rich unhappy person and vise versa poor happy person and poor unhappy person .
What determines which type of these you can be is based on the balanced you are on your daily life , each of us have ability to make decisions , it does not matter what kind of a decision ; it could be waking up at 6 am and going to the Gym or going to the bar after work for a drink , we have the choice to start our day and finish it doing what we want to do including work , as if you are employed but you hate your job ; so you don’t really want to go but you have to go to pay your bills on the other hand ; the other option is Not to go to work because you do not like it but the consequences will be bad and you might get fired and lose your Job

Life Decisions

Simple decisions we take every day that could make a huge difference in our lives , we have to work everyday so the most important thing is to get a Job that we love so the time you spend on work will be enjoyable and make your life less stressful on the contrary if you do not love your Job it will be miserable and the time spent during work will be unbearable There are also cases where rich people get smashed in life and all of a sudden lost all of their money to scratch and then it is very difficult for them to live without the money that has always controlled their lives and this could be very hard
for someone who had never slept hungry in his/her entire life .
Whether you are a company CEO or Famous Superstar or even a Country President , life
though us that it could hit anyone and sometimes it can be very hard and we do not have any other choice if we want to live we have to adapt .

Very rich people got to poor status and now what ? they have to start all over again ? how many people actually make it back to the top ? I think the percentage will not be promising as lower than 5% , I am not talking about normal people whom lost their businesses and started up again from zero and became successful , No ! I am
talking about wealthy rich people that money has controlled their minds and emptied their souls , these people were not ready at anytime to be poor and they was never prepared so that is why it is so hard for them to stand up because they
have lost all what they have which is money .
God always shows us that nothing is permanent and everything could change and most of the time we have no control of the things that happen to us , with that said , you could have a lot money in your bank account and happy with it and then suddenly an emergency happened or a problem that You must solve with all the money you have
in your bank account that you may have worked for so many years to save it but it can not help you unfortunately because money can not solve all problems on earth .
Life proves us wrong all the time I have seen millionaire’s with difficult diseases that has no cure or medical solution, on the other hand their money could not help them, so why?
God will always guide the right people to his path and this is one of his strategies to get back the good people to right path , in other words once are sick and your money and family can not help and you feel helpless and you need to get to a superior power than you seeking help by Praying to the lord and get closer to him and hopefully
staying connected with GOD all the rest of life , God wants us to understand that money is important for us but not everything , so once he takes out health from you , then you forget about anything else in your whole life and ask only to get your health back as it was , we do not appreciate our health enough and we do not thank God for it everyday , we should wake up !As we only look at things when we lose them ,many young people are destroying their health with drugs and alcohol not knowing that they are killing the most important thing in life and also the top key for happiness .

Abusing our health is a dangerous game that we play not knowing the consequences or maybe we know them just we ignore them for the love of fake drug orgasm’s and party night life’s just an illusion that stays for a while then once you wake up the next day it’s like nothing happened .

Drug abuse also will break your life balance as we spoke about it before because if you dedicate a high percentage of your daily activities to drug your life will be miserable sooner or later and you need to stop it and start thinking what I am doing with My life you can see other examples of people who abused drugs before and may be died , make
the right decision for you not for anybody else .

Your brain functions much better when it is sober so try to get the best of it and face your problems by yourself and do not expect help from nobody , challenge your self with a new target in life and it must be Big enough to push yourself beyond the
limits but in the right path Each one of us got his own problems some of us
choose to face them and some of us choose to escape but not for long , so I would rather face My problems and get over them but hide behind drugs that will make surely a loser in the end .

Friends In Life :

Friends plays an important role to determine whether you are in the right path or not , you may have friends that are calling you to get drugs everyday and you may have friends that take you to the Gym everyday so as you can see , you may have different type of friends and then its up to you to choose which crew to join but you have to
be ready for the outcome , one side will take you down and the other will lift you up so make sure you make the right decision A good health should lead to a healthy brain that
contributes in all our daily decisions and if used properly it could lead to great decisions and successful life .

3Life Examples :

As long as you have a good health you should appreciate what you have and
be thankful that you are a healthy person and you may look to other sick people and compare them with your self and see how blessed you are .

You can be happy just because you are healthy and money can be an added advantage that contributes in your happiness .

Same thing with the piece of mind it will always beat money in My world because a lot of money without piece of mind can not lead to happiness but in fact piece of mind with enough money can lead to happiness .
Now we can get even deeper on this subject by living 3 different scenarios for 3 different people .
The first example :
Mr Mike 45 Years old , successful Businessman and Married with 3 Kids , multiple villas & Houses and many luxurious cars .

It seems that Mr Mike is leaving a good life as he is having a very good job and his financial situation is amazing with multiple successful projects and millions of dollars on his bank account also on a familial level ,living in a huge villa overlooking the
ocean and having 3 kids and he was married for over 20 years , so everything seems to be perfect inhere !!
Wait ! Let’s see how Mr Mike Spends his day :
Mr Mike Wakes up in the morning at 6 am ,gets his breakfast while reading the newspapers the he checked his emails quickly and 7 am leaves to work then runs his daily operations till lunch time which he does not take at home of course , so he will miss the lunch time with his family all working days .

Mr Mike will finish work at 5 PM then go to the bar have dinner and drink after the other till 10 pm then reaches home at 11 pm drunk as hell then jump into his daily fight with his wife then go to sleep at midnight .
The daily activities are the same for his working days so where do you see happiness in here ?The other 2 days of the week which supposed to be the day off he must go to check on his other Business which is a Restaurant so he has to spend Saturday & Sunday working as well in addition to his overthinking which cause him sleepless nights .
His older kid is addicted to drugs and his little brothers are suffering from a depression too from the luck of attention from their parents specially the father who barely speaks to his boys Later on Mr Mike got diagnosed with kidney failure as he was a heavy drinker and doctors told him that he has 2 options either having a kidney
replacement surgery or having weekly treatments .
Mr Mike decided to make the surgery and Doctors said that everything went fine and that Mr Mike will be Ok , after 3 days of the surgery Mr Mike woke up on a severe pain and his voice saw reaching the corridors , nurses rushes to check on him and his Doctor arrived as well to check what is the matter.
Suddenly the Doctor called his wife and informed her that the surgery failed and unfortunately he has to live with daily treatments all his life if he wanted to live as at the moment they can not make a new surgery and risk his life .
Here you can see that even if you may have the money but it will be useless in such a case and most important note ; whatever you plans are ?
GOD is capable of changing them at anytime but in fact he is in control of everything .

Mr Mike had 2 options from the beginning and he chooses one of them based on the money he has but finally he got to settle on whatever was meant to happen
for him way before he was born .
The conclusion of this example is that Money alone can not make you happy , this Gentleman had the perfect profile for a successful happy man but in fact from the inside he was a horrible person who does not enjoy his life .
But we can take the same example and just twisted a little bit , similar to the decisions I have told you before that we make everyday now this is one of them that could change the life of Mr Mike completely .
The same Rich person Mr Mike could give up his drinking habits and start doing some sports that will enhance his general health and affect his brain capabilities positively, he will add a sport session in the morning whatever it is to start up his day fresh and active .
Later on once he finished his Business schedules he can go straight to his house and spend whole evening with them check on his kids and wife .

He will at least have 2 meals at home per day so he can perform his fatherhood duties specially taking care of his 3 kids and for sure once you are close to your kids and listening to them constantly they will feel safe and they will speak with you with honestly and in case they tried to start something you will be able to spot at the start and deal with it instantly not if were far away from your kids and not knowing what they are doing
just because in your mind you think that they have everything they need to be happy and that you provided them with whatever they need or they asked for , unfortunately it does not work that way , kids needs more of your daily time in order to feel safe and secure and most important thing they need someone that can listen to them when
they start developing ideas and asking questions and it is our responsibility to guide them to the right path .

The Second Example :
Mr Smith Who is 40 years old married as well and has 1 kid , him and his wife are working as teachers and they love their Job so much , the enjoy their time at work with full energy and also they spend quality & quantity time with their kid to make sure he gets the attention needed to make him grow in a healthy environment .
The same as the previous example this family seems to be a happy one and may be they are not rich but mostly they have everything they need
but surely they can not buy everything they
wanted to have .
But there is something negative in their life that make it harder for them to be happy ; Mr & Mrs Smith always wanted to live the luxury life but unfortunately they could not achieve so the quicker & the worst solution is to get a depth from the bank to buy something you really do not need and this is the mistake that both of them made .

They have taken a loan to buy a huge house in the city center even if they are only a small family and a 6 bedroom house would not be that needful for them , in addition to this the whole house furniture was by credit installment .

Not only the house but the cars as well are from a loan and their life become surrounded with loans , they talk about it on daily basis and repeat , yes they are working hard and they enjoy their work however the tension and stress coming from Their loans are unbearable .
This couple decided to ruin their life by them selves as what if they accepted to live in the house that they afford having instead of going beyond your limits and put yourself in a difficult situation , they could have lived in a small house and buy normal cars instead of going to fancy things that are not necessary .

Those things that we have spoken about before the luxury life style , once you get it you will enjoy for sometime that it become a usual thing so why putting my life in depth situation for something temporary .

The Third and final example :
Mr Gary who is 29 married as well with 2 kids , him and his wife both quit their jobs and started an online business as they could not support anymore the 9 to 6 job and by working by them selves for them selves they have managed to achieve great results as Mr. Gary has experience in Web Design whether His wife got Marketing skills , so their energy was to the roof and their success was massive .
They live a happy life with their kids , they wake up in the morning they do some exercises then have a family breakfast then take the kids to school , with only few hours spent on their online business everyday they have plenty of time to do
whatever they want .
This is a Good example when you take care of your health and doing what you love enjoying every single day of this life and giving the maximum attention to your family and kids this is really a blessing from God .

Conclusion

The conclusion is that life is a fact and happiness is a choice ,Some people decide to be happy despite
of what they have and other decide to be sad despite of what they have ; there are things that
seems to bring happiness but matter in fact all those things will bring you temporary joy or
pleasure that will vanish with time , there are other things that can bring long term happiness to
our body and soul ; appreciating what you have and working on improving on daily basis , love &
help others will make you feel important in this world .